MVK Newsletter

December 2008

 

Messages from the Board

 

The New Board Digs In

The 2009 Board of Directors of MVK thanks the community for its support and confidence.  We have been hard at work since the election and have some exciting things in store for 2009.

 

Assessing Your Needs:

To be more responsive to your needs, the Board has established a Marketing Research Committee. This group will develop a series of paper-based and on-line surveys to find out what you want and need MVK to be and do. 

 

In addition to the Marketing Research Commitee, we've established to following additional committees:

Incorporation update:

After many months of hard work, MVK's application for incorporation under the Societies Act as a non-profit society is nearly complete!  With just a few t's to be crossed and i's to be dotted, we expect the final paperwork to be completed and accepted very soon.  Look for a more on what this historic milestone means for our community in upcoming newsletters.

 

 

Focus on Education:

Since its inception, MVK has placed community education high on our list of goals and principles.  We are planning an exciting series of workshops and hands-on learning opportunities for you in the coming year.  We intend to make MVK the "go-to" organization for fun, informative education and skills training for those interested in BDSM.

 

The MVK Board bids a fond farewell to Tille as Workshop Coordinator, who is stepping down to spend more time on other endeavors. Her tireless efforts over the past year (and previously with BIO) have set a standard of excellence that we are commiitted to following. Take a moment and think about all the great things you've learned at MVK workshops in 2008 and then make sure to thank Tillie when you see her. 

 

Here are some of our upcoming workshops;

 

December 6th, 2008

Make your own Rubber Flogger

A hands-on workshop on making your own rubber flogger for BDSM play. Presented by Ms Ava

Time: 3pm - 5pm

Admission $15-25 (sliding scale), materials included, and you get to take the flogger home.

Only 20 spots available, so pre-registration is required. Deadline Dec. 4th, Please email register@metrovancouverkink.com to get on the list.

 

Workshop: Flogging 101 and beyond

The staple of impact play, floggers are the only impact tool that is used for what it was created for. Historically, floggers were used to administrate discipline on ships. Today, flogging will lift people to stratospheric levels of ecstasy or provide a relaxing massage. Without a doubt, flogging is the most versatile and widely enjoyed form of impact play. Zorklunn will be covering flogger construction and materials, basic use, advanced techniques and tips for improving exciting or learning new skills.  From novice to experienced tops, Flogging 101 and beyond promises to have something for everyone.

Time: 7:30pm - 9:

Admission $10-20 (sliding scale)

 

January 3, 2009

Beginning / Intermediate single-tail workshop with Jonn Ireland  

John's website: http://www.sensualwhipping.com

February 7, 2009

Bondage for Decoration, Restraint and Sex with Professor Oni

March 7, 2009

Suspension Bondage with Professor Oni

  

December Vancouver Dungeon play party

9:00 pm -1:00am   

$20 for the party alone

$25-$35 sliding scale for evening workshop plus party

    

What is sliding scale?

Sliding scale means you have the option to contribute the amount you are comfortable with.  MVK believes in keeping our educational events accessible to all members of our community.  MVK is a community-based non-profit organization, and we need your support to keeping holding quality events for everyone!

 

Featuring:

• Fully equipped dungeon supervised by the Vancouver DM Team
• Vendors
• Red Light Room
• Holiday food drive. Bring a non-perishable food item for the Vancouver food bank and get a ticket for a prize drawing.

 

Location: Capri Hall, at the Vancouver Subud Centre (wheelchair accessible)
3925 Fraser Street @ E.23rd, Vancouver

 

Party Rules

 

Parking:

Ample parking is available on the surrounding streets.  Please respect parking regulations, dress discreetly and keep noise levels down in respect to local residents.

Carpooling:

For Facebook users, install the Facebook Carpooling application from http://www.zimride.com/. You will be able to arrange rides with other attendees, once you have the event in your list.

Transit:

#8 and #25 buses will bring you there.  After the regular buses stop running, the N8 still runs every 30minutes.

Please check Translink schedules for details

The last scheduled buses, at the nearest timing points are scheduled for:

8 Northbound: 1.07am;  8 Southbound: 2.00am

25 Westbound: 12.36am; 25 Eastbound: 12:35am

 

 

Community Calendar

 

 

Features

Introduction to Flogging

If there is such a thing as "basic s/m", flogging would definitely be a part of it. It's the next step after bare hand spanking, and often the newcomer's introduction to impact play. Follows are words by experienced players on the staple of BDSM, flogging.

 

Does it hurt?

by wicked d

Does it hurt? That was the question put to me by a vanilla friend of mine when flogging came up in a conversation one day. All I could say was yes and no, and it depends. When I flog someone it's more of an erotic connection that is shared between two people than it is inflicting pain or punishment. But that is me and my preference and style.

 

This is all dependant on the bottom's tolerance, as everyone is different, and there should be negotiation before the scene. It's important for the top to find out as much information as they can about the bottom they are playing with. Some important safety concerns are: previous or current injuries, medical conditions and medications and anything that might be a concern should be discussed beforehand. Always use clear and easily remembered safe words. The more you know about the person you are playing with, the better prepared you will be to make the experience for both persons enjoyable and safe.

 

I like to begin with simply dragging the flogger tails over the person I am flogging. Let them feel the softness of the leather. Let them smell the aroma of the leather. I then start using a figure eight pattern with my flogger very gently and slowly. Sometimes using just the tips of the tails sometimes using more of the falls. I move from my bottom's shoulders to their ass, building up a rhythm. I am not striking with much force at all at this point as I am warming up the skin and the bottom is relaxing more as the endorfins start to kick in. Pausing to caress the areas I have been working on and talking to my bottom to make sure all is well with them and to gauge if they are entering sub space. I will gradually build up force and momentum and watching the redness grow and deepen in colour. At this point I sometime's throw in a sharp snap or two.

I continue the pattern of shoulders and ass and increase the force and speed of the blows, pausing every so often to caress the areas on the bottom and to talk to them find out where their head is at. To wind down I have a couple of different options that I like to use one is the big finish to build up to the bottom's limit and stop on a dime with a couple of big thwacks on each ass cheek. The other is to gradually go back to the starting point easing off on the force and speed until you are whisping the falls over the body again.

 

No matter which I choose to end with I always finish with gentle caressing over the area with my hand and finger tips. A nice hug is almost always appreciated by the bottom. A warm blanket, a comfy place to sit and some small talk always make for good after care. It also depends on your intimacy level as to what sort of after care should be used like holding the bottom in your arms or kisses.

 

So back to the question, does it hurt? The answer is still yes and no and depends. But it depends on what the two people involved in the scene are looking for and have negotiated beforehand. It should be an enjoyable experience for both involved.

 

Know your limits, play within them and always think of safety first.

 

 

News

Seattle news runs biased report on Centre for Sex Postive Culture

On November 17, Seattle TV station KOMO ran a news feature attempting to fabricate a scandal that the Center for Sex Positive Culture wasn't paying taxes. KOMO also edited an interview with America Unzipped author Brian Alexander to suggest he disapproved of the Center.

Link

 

Swedes remove BDSM from medical "diagnoses" list

Several forms of sexual behaviour including sadomasochsm and fetishism are to be removed from a list of medical 'diagnoses' in Sweden

Link

 

NYC dominatrixes talk union in face of crisis

Faced with a drop in business from the economic crisis and increased police attention, NYC pro dominatrixes are forming a coalition called DomPAC for lobbying and creating a 401(K).

Link

 

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Published monthly by Metro Vancouver Kink Society. Edited by Peter Tupper, vice-president and communications coordinator. Direct inquiries and contributions to contact+newsletter@metrovancouverkink.com

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